11.12.03 bespectacled

After I came home from the hospital Byron admitted that he was afraid that I would die during the whole ordeal. This is not an unrealistic concern. My first cancer diagnosis was the improbable outcome of an appointment to check an ear infection. The skin cancer was discovered by my oral surgeon. I am an oddity and rarely have normal experiences with medical problems other people experience as routine.

During the days of uncertainty Byron remained in good humor. He was courteous, kind, amusing, and helpful - everything that I could have hoped for. I didn't have to worry about the kids or, most importantly, render assurances that I was fine. He would have helped me if I had fallen apart. He didn't criticize the fact that I remained steady and calm.

He is, to say this another way, simply the best friend I've ever had. It is a piece of extraordinary good luck that he is also my true love.

While I wondered whether to go on with the surgery (this was not an option in the eyes of the doctors, but I like to maintain a facade of control) he kept saying that the timing was convenient because he had a conference coming up. I wasn't really paying attention but he has been putting in fourteen hour days for this:

Event

In which he is one of the experts and has presented SDV. My bespectacled sweetheart is so smart, I have no idea what he actually does at work - but he always comes home with funny stories.

Another interesting thing - the Ask Adrian portion of the conference refers to someone I went to grade school with. Life is full of startling coincidences.

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